Real Love in Parenting: Nine Simple and Powerfully Effective Principles for Raising Happy and Responsible Children

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Not only have these principles help me reconnect with my Kids in profound and truly remarkable ways, but this approach is SOOO MUCH EASIER. These are the principles I always somehow wanted to work with, but never know how. As most parents, I was clueless and making it up as I went along, controlling all the way. And, surprise, surprise, it didn't go well at all. The results I got with that approach were so frustratingly bad and I just kept making it up as I went along. This was a disaster. Once I read this book, and started following these principles, great things started to show up, like closeness and trust with my kids. And, I was so relieved to have a plan, some principles and a direction. My kids are now in the early 20's and I am so proud of them and we really enjoy each others company and I am so proud of what they're up to. There is no way I could have reached this point without these principles to point and guide me there. I am so grateful and this book is SO POWERFUL.

This book has some tough truths in it & is hard to implement simply because it will make you focus on your behavior more than your children's. He repeats himself a lot at the beginning of the book & so many times I found myself saying "I understand the problem, just tell me how to fix it already?!" If you aren't someone who believes that love can fix things & believe the children should blindly respect & obey their parents, you'll find this hard to swallow. But I can tell you that if you will keep an open mind you can see the logic behind it (something my children's father is finally seeing). It has made a big difference in my interactions with my daughters. I understood a lot of the concepts prior to reading the book, but it was good to be reminded that kids, as frustrating as they can be, are acting out because they are lacking the unconditional love & attention they need to develop. Great book, just wish it repeated itself less & got to the point faster.

The major concepts in this book are fantastic. The ideas that one should never truly be angry with their children is a great step toward more sane parenting. However, I do feel some very overly Christian undertones in this book. I especially think the chapter arguing against masturbation is a red flag. The concepts are great, however I think his day-to-day application can be overly didactic and the consequences not particularly "natural". So I recommend this book so that you can get the general idea of what it truly means to feel unconditional love and to give that unconditional love. But I think the ideas to further implement what he preaches can be better found in attachment parenting books.

I had often wondered why my daughter often misbehaves in many occasions. Now I understand after reading this book; it is really not much about her, but about ourselves. As parents, we have not learned to love our children unconditionally.After reading this over and over, i finally understood the needs of children. Being angry and acting disappointed would actually harm the child. I did not know how impactful it has towards the relationship with our children.My daughter is more behaved now. My wife and I feel much closer to our daughter. She has been taking more responsibility and feeling loved at the same time. Importantly, she knows how to express this to our people. She does not to need to seek attention or love from other because she already has this.I would definitely recommend this book to all parents.

I cannot say enough good about the theory of loving your children and finding ways other than yelling and spanking to teach and inforce proper behavior. However, I do not like his writing style and at times (dispite his statment "don't feel guilty") I feel his message of "if you don't do it my way you will destroy your children forever" a bit overpowering.That said, this book has truly changed my life and that of my 3 daughters as I have learned tools other than yelling and lecturing. It demonstrates tools that are actually effective and explanations as to why they are so.I can not say enough for how grateful I am that this book came into my life.

I have facilitated Love and Logic parenting classes for a couple of years and, while I believe them to be an invaluable tool for helping families, I felt that something was missing. "Real Love in Parenting" fills in the missing link! By explaining the "why" of the negative behaviors we see in our kids (as well as ourselves and the rest of society!), this book gives insights that allow us to REALLY feel and display empathy for our kids' mistakes, which is so crucial to the Love and Logic model. I have seen a marked improvement in our family dynamics since I've implemented some of the strategies of this book. Along with "Parenting with Love and Logic," I highly recommend this book to every parent!

One of the best things I have ever done for my family is reading and trying to implement this book in my parenting. Can't wait to read Real Love In Marriage now.

I spent 11 years, pushing and criticising my son, getting frustrated and often angry when he made mistakes. I created a child that physically shook and cried whenever he made a mistake, such was his fear of the torent of mental abuse he was about to receive from me. I searched for a cure for his lack of self confidence, and found this book. I now know that my son did not require a cure, but it was me that needed fixing. All he needed was acceptance and unconditional love. We have a long way to go, but after just two weeks, our family life has changed dramatically. Greg is a master of telling it straight, and his no-nonsense writing style is just what I needed to hear. Every parent should get a copy of this book, it is the equivalent of the parenting Bible.

Wonderful, wonderful book. It would be wonderful if all parents could read it.

This is a brilliant book. Highly recommended for any parent. Can be transferred also into all relationships. Really excellent

Every parent should read this excellent book

we all want to be the best, loving parents we can be.If only everyone knew that how to be is all in this book.