Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

Good part : definition of unsafe peopleBad part : too stretched to explain other parts , hard to use tools been told in the bookGood one time read

Great book for kids and adults alike

I wish Safe People were required reading in high schools, and that schools would also require a course about having healthy, safe relationships. It is so needed. I meet countless people who have crazy, chaotic relationships and life patterns, and it's sad because this shouldn't be the norm. Unhealthy and unsafe relationships kind of are the norm nowadays.I pose this question sometimes and often can't get a good answer. When is the last time you saw a movie or television show that displayed a healthy relationship? I'm fairly certain a Hallmark film will NOT come to mind as a good example, and the average movie has the most dysfunctional relationships on display, and we learn from this. People who come out of dysfunctional households and it's been their lives, what is a healthy relationship? What do emotionally safe and healthy people do? If you ever step out of a toxic relationship into the opposite, then...you finally SEE it for what it is, and you want the different: drama-free, no chaos, no screaming, no mental gymnastics to try to figure out what a person with toxic relating skills wants (I'm not sure they even know), healthy conflict management that leads to relief and peace and not gaslighting and silent treatments. If that resonated with anyone, please save yourself a lot of trouble, and get a copy of this book.I also wish I read this as a teenager, (I think my life would have been very different and much sooner).This book is both helpful and life changing. If you let it do what it's supposed to, it can help you evaluate your relationships and pinpoint whether they are healthy or unsafe. Also, there can be some self-evaluation taking place (which can be tough), but mature people can look at themselves and identify things that need to change and then, make those necessary changes with God's help.While this book is excellent for identification, it doesn't help you learn how to implement boundaries once you see that your relationship(s) may not be the healthiest and how to handle that. The next step is to look into the Boundaries books by the same authors (the Boundaries books can be general or some cover specific topics, such as dating and parenting).I love this book. I love the impact of the changes that I made concerning relationships and the peace that came after reading this. It helped me stop a lot of patterns. This is highly, highly recommended. Both authors are psychologists, and their advice is practical, wise (in all of their books), and incredibly beneficial. This is one of those times when I would recommend a purchase. And start working on having healthy, life-giving relationships. It's not easy, but it's worth the effort.

Hoe herken je onveilige en veilige vriendschappen? Duidelijk geschreven met praktische handvatten.

A must read for anyone looking to improve their relationships, and for anyone who has had relationship problems. it helps identify the good from the bad, including in ourselves. thumbs up book!

I read "Boundaries" about 14 years ago and saw it as a ground breaking work with a serious flaw. It had some clear ambiguities and was so "self focused" that it empowered people to not only set and enforce boundaries but to equally destroy significant relationships. Safe People goes beyond addressing these issues in a balanced and compassionate way. A must read for all who have read Boundaries.