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# Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

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Review: Life-Changing Perspective Shifts and Advice - Ever since I bought this book and started reading it last night, I haven't been able to put it down except to sleep or when I'm busy. It's very eye-opening and validating, it sees the things you have seen that your mom lacks that your healthy friends or partner's mom seems to have, that loving, nurturing, kind and encouraging way of leading her children. It's especially comforting to know you aren't the crazy one. Your mom is deflecting because that's all she knows how to do, she doesn't want to think that she failed as a mother, and it takes her a long time or maybe never to finally confront the truth of how bad you and or your siblings' childhood was. I especially relate to the part that talks about when you try to talk about your feelings or childhood, she blames you and says, "What you do and say have hurt me" "You're going to have a daughter exactly like you and you'll get it" or the whole "I'm sorry I'm a terrible mother, I should have never been born" and cries or walks or drives away from you to escape. Those who had an emotionally absent or smothering mother, read this book and heal in 2026!
Review: Brilliant Book-Not Only For Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers - Disclaimer: this is an incredibly long review, because I have found this book to be a breakthrough for me DESPITE NOT HAVING A NARCASSISTIC MOTHER. I found working through this book irreplaceable to healing as the child of a broken, abusive home; broken extended family; broken community; and, broken communist state. I'm hoping this review will help women whose mothers did the best they could, but were too broken to love their child unconditionally. A frame of reference: The "Ever Be Good Enough" title resonated with me to my core. My self-esteem issues began when I was about 7, to be followed later with perfectionist tendencies, anxiety, a lack of self-compassion, and a really unhealthy internal voice. My housemate left this book out and I immediately identified with the lack of emotional intimacy from my mom and others (dad, stepdad, grandma), my mom's inconsistent behavior, her occasional inability to protect me from harm, her desire to parade me around her friends, the family secrecy, and her inability to express an internal emotional world. However, my mom is not narcissistic: she is open now to talking about her deep feelings, albeit reluctantly as they're painful; she does not try to control me in my adulthood; she loves and is proud of who I am despite it not fitting with her world view, etc. That does not lessen the pain, however, of not getting my needs for unconditional love and protection met as a child. My loving mother's emotional problems stem from PTSD from her seriously abusive home, coupled with unhealthy behaviors derived from an unstable childhood (depressed mother, no food or textiles available making survival vs. intimacy the priority, state quota housing that makes it almost impossible to escape an abusive home, and the community selfishness that is par for the course with extremely limited basic resources). She has done her best to actively love me in the best way she knew how, and I am blessed to be so loved. What she has not been able to give me because of her own brokenness and paradigms, I am working through now. How this book helped: Despite a fantastic counselor that helped me learn so many great strategies to feel worthwhile and think positively, when overwhelming situations occurred, I would quickly lose my footing. McBride's book allowed me to work through my aching hurt and emptiness, guiding me through the past and continuing the healing I have started years ago. It has also informed the confused feeling and contradictory messages I have felt from my mother. The highlight: The first 90 pages where the most valuable, personally, for where I am in my healing. Outlining and describing every aspect of motherly love allowed me to create a specific list of what aspects I hadn't received. Before this book, I had not been able to push through my numbness and forced forgetting. It walked me through examples in a compassionate way, helping me remember. The book then guided me through accepting the loss of unconditional love through different suggested exercises. Applying the book to non-narcissistic mothers: The healing process was very easy to adjust to an emotionally unstable parent by replacing " mother was narcissistic and didn't love me in x way" with "mom was y and didn't love me in x way". I also found it helpful to think of my mother more compassionately--since my mom isn't singularly selfish, there was more truth in this thought for me: "my mom did the best she could with her emotional limitations and upbringing, but she still left holes in my heart. It is time to acknowledge the pain, work through those holes, and move past them. " I would also add that the author recommends not talking to your mom about your pain--McBride points out that narcissistic moms can't empathize with their daughters. This advice didn't apply to my mom who does care deeply about my well being but doesn't handle intense conversations well initially. The next step of my healing will be to learn more about my mom's past, which she has said she is willing to share, to understand her barriers to unconditional love. The ultimate goal of this is to heal my relationship with my mother by gaining unlimited compassion for my mom and unlimited forgiveness. Below is a list of additional books that helped me heal (from most to least relevant): Self-esteem by McKay (A complete self-esteem primer. I'm referring to the book, not the workbook.) The Color of Water by James McBride (unrelated to the author)--biographical tribute to a white, Jewish mom from her mixed, black son. I am neither black, nor Jewish, but really understood, related to, and worked through my own pain of an emotionally limited mother. I used this book to figure out where to go from here after reading McBride (the answer for me is to fill in the remaining gaps in the past and gain a greater understanding of my mother so that I can brim with compassion and forgiveness for her. Psalm 139, "ESV"' lines 1-18 (free if you type what I just did into a search engine) I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou (fiction, narcissistic mother; broken daughter) Hullaballoo in The Guava Orchard by Desai (fiction, vaguely related, about self-actualization and indirectly self-compassion. In an abstract way, this book demonstrates how to meet my needs)

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #16,944 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #19 in Abuse Self-Help #22 in Dysfunctional Families (Books) #83 in Interpersonal Relations (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.7 4.7 out of 5 stars (6,654) |
| Dimensions  | 5.5 x 0.68 x 8.44 inches |
| Edition  | Reprint |
| ISBN-10  | 1439129436 |
| ISBN-13  | 978-1439129432 |
| Item Weight  | 2.31 pounds |
| Language  | English |
| Print length  | 243 pages |
| Publication date  | September 8, 2009 |
| Publisher  | Atria Books |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Life-Changing Perspective Shifts and Advice
*by C***S on January 6, 2026*

Ever since I bought this book and started reading it last night, I haven't been able to put it down except to sleep or when I'm busy. It's very eye-opening and validating, it sees the things you have seen that your mom lacks that your healthy friends or partner's mom seems to have, that loving, nurturing, kind and encouraging way of leading her children. It's especially comforting to know you aren't the crazy one. Your mom is deflecting because that's all she knows how to do, she doesn't want to think that she failed as a mother, and it takes her a long time or maybe never to finally confront the truth of how bad you and or your siblings' childhood was. I especially relate to the part that talks about when you try to talk about your feelings or childhood, she blames you and says, "What you do and say have hurt me" "You're going to have a daughter exactly like you and you'll get it" or the whole "I'm sorry I'm a terrible mother, I should have never been born" and cries or walks or drives away from you to escape. Those who had an emotionally absent or smothering mother, read this book and heal in 2026!

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Brilliant Book-Not Only For Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
*by M***A on June 23, 2012*

Disclaimer: this is an incredibly long review, because I have found this book to be a breakthrough for me DESPITE NOT HAVING A NARCASSISTIC MOTHER. I found working through this book irreplaceable to healing as the child of a broken, abusive home; broken extended family; broken community; and, broken communist state. I'm hoping this review will help women whose mothers did the best they could, but were too broken to love their child unconditionally. A frame of reference: The "Ever Be Good Enough" title resonated with me to my core. My self-esteem issues began when I was about 7, to be followed later with perfectionist tendencies, anxiety, a lack of self-compassion, and a really unhealthy internal voice. My housemate left this book out and I immediately identified with the lack of emotional intimacy from my mom and others (dad, stepdad, grandma), my mom's inconsistent behavior, her occasional inability to protect me from harm, her desire to parade me around her friends, the family secrecy, and her inability to express an internal emotional world. However, my mom is not narcissistic: she is open now to talking about her deep feelings, albeit reluctantly as they're painful; she does not try to control me in my adulthood; she loves and is proud of who I am despite it not fitting with her world view, etc. That does not lessen the pain, however, of not getting my needs for unconditional love and protection met as a child. My loving mother's emotional problems stem from PTSD from her seriously abusive home, coupled with unhealthy behaviors derived from an unstable childhood (depressed mother, no food or textiles available making survival vs. intimacy the priority, state quota housing that makes it almost impossible to escape an abusive home, and the community selfishness that is par for the course with extremely limited basic resources). She has done her best to actively love me in the best way she knew how, and I am blessed to be so loved. What she has not been able to give me because of her own brokenness and paradigms, I am working through now. How this book helped: Despite a fantastic counselor that helped me learn so many great strategies to feel worthwhile and think positively, when overwhelming situations occurred, I would quickly lose my footing. McBride's book allowed me to work through my aching hurt and emptiness, guiding me through the past and continuing the healing I have started years ago. It has also informed the confused feeling and contradictory messages I have felt from my mother. The highlight: The first 90 pages where the most valuable, personally, for where I am in my healing. Outlining and describing every aspect of motherly love allowed me to create a specific list of what aspects I hadn't received. Before this book, I had not been able to push through my numbness and forced forgetting. It walked me through examples in a compassionate way, helping me remember. The book then guided me through accepting the loss of unconditional love through different suggested exercises. Applying the book to non-narcissistic mothers: The healing process was very easy to adjust to an emotionally unstable parent by replacing " mother was narcissistic and didn't love me in x way" with "mom was y and didn't love me in x way". I also found it helpful to think of my mother more compassionately--since my mom isn't singularly selfish, there was more truth in this thought for me: "my mom did the best she could with her emotional limitations and upbringing, but she still left holes in my heart. It is time to acknowledge the pain, work through those holes, and move past them. " I would also add that the author recommends not talking to your mom about your pain--McBride points out that narcissistic moms can't empathize with their daughters. This advice didn't apply to my mom who does care deeply about my well being but doesn't handle intense conversations well initially. The next step of my healing will be to learn more about my mom's past, which she has said she is willing to share, to understand her barriers to unconditional love. The ultimate goal of this is to heal my relationship with my mother by gaining unlimited compassion for my mom and unlimited forgiveness. Below is a list of additional books that helped me heal (from most to least relevant): Self-esteem by McKay (A complete self-esteem primer. I'm referring to the book, not the workbook.) The Color of Water by James McBride (unrelated to the author)--biographical tribute to a white, Jewish mom from her mixed, black son. I am neither black, nor Jewish, but really understood, related to, and worked through my own pain of an emotionally limited mother. I used this book to figure out where to go from here after reading McBride (the answer for me is to fill in the remaining gaps in the past and gain a greater understanding of my mother so that I can brim with compassion and forgiveness for her. Psalm 139, "ESV"' lines 1-18 (free if you type what I just did into a search engine) I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou (fiction, narcissistic mother; broken daughter) Hullaballoo in The Guava Orchard by Desai (fiction, vaguely related, about self-actualization and indirectly self-compassion. In an abstract way, this book demonstrates how to meet my needs)

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Great
*by B***B on December 27, 2021*

This book is great. As somebody who was raised by narcissists and had a year of research about the matter before discovering this book, this book was spot on. It provided me some more insight into the 'abnormal' ways in which I was raised and treated by my parents. When you're somebody who grows up with this situation, and potentially isn't privy to the household dynamics of a 'normal' family, it can be hard to discern what is normal/healthy and what isn't with your family dynamics. Having a book point these things out can be very enlightening and relieving that you're not a crazy person for thinking something has been gravely wrong despite meeting many of the standard metrics of being a well-functioning person (for me, did well in school, graduated college, six figure job after graduation), so I struggled with feeling it to be acceptable to criticize aspects of how I was raised given I've ended up conventionally 'successful'. Furthermore, I will add that I am a man, not a woman, but still found the book to be very applicable. Finally, I have no affiliation w/ this industry in any way, but full spectrum cbd oil has significantly helped with GAD and SAD that stemmed from being born w/ a highly sensitive nervous system, and then being raised by narcs. After realizing I had narc parents, I spent two years working on myself having never tried CBD, and was able to develop a sense of self, boundaries, and figure out who exactly I was. Then I've been in a good spot since that time, weening off caffeine and alc and addictive tech and introducing meditation. Then I was in in even better spot. Then, I decided to try CBD oil since I still found myself sweating profusely in almost all social situations, struggling with social interactions with strangers at work, and realized my sympathetic nervous system was still wildin' out despite my absolute best efforts to change over the course of many years. But then I tried CBD oil and it's essentially eliminated all GAD and SAD and I think I feel 'normal' for the first time ever. Just sharing this because a lot of people who go through this upbringing can probably benefit from similar therapy approaches.

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