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# Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode--and into a Life of Connection and Joy

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Review: A Must Read - This Book Ushers in Hope + Healing - I am so grateful to see more and more conversations (and BOOKS!) taking place in the faith community regarding mental health, trauma, therapy, etc. Try Softer fills a much-needed gap, and it does not disappoint! As someone who has dealt with the trauma of losing a child, who has spent over a decade as military spouse in a world at war, who has uncovered childhood trauma, and who has been on my own healing journey -- this book felt like a long-lost friend. It was like an open-door invitation into healing and hope with author Aundi Kolber standing there with her arms open wide ready to receive you gently. Ultimately, the author extends to us what our Heavenly Father offers. Kolber interweaves some of her own personal stories and struggles as well as those of her clients (she’s a therapist), but this book really differentiates itself by the wealth of clinical information and expertise Kolber shares. For someone who loves stories and loves information, this book has both! This book really helped usher in God’s compassion and gentleness into my life and helped me relinquish areas of captivity by finding freedom and rest in “trying softer.” There are treasures in this book that have taken me over a decade to learn as well as new ones I’ve never before uncovered. Kolber’s knowledge, wisdom, relatability, and the inclusion of practical tools were immensely helpful. I have already returned to it a handful of times since finishing and will continue to use it as a resource in my own life. If you’re a fan of Brene Brown (but want something more Christ-centerd), if you’re ready to do some “soul work” as I like to call it, if you’re tired from the exhaustion of striving, if you have a loud inner critic, I highly recommend you grab this and start reading. While I read through it quickly, you may want to move slowly through it if you’re new to some of the concepts Kolber writes about. She does an excellent job articulating and explaining the information but some areas by nature may weigh heavy on you. I think you’ll also find the reflective questions helpful in absorbing and finding transformation as you read like I did. Thank you Aundi Kolber for sharing this work with the world! I know the world is going to be a better place as people learn to “try softer” after reading your book. Here’s one of my favorite quotes: “Every sorrow we’ve grieved, every fear we’ve felt, every trauma and all the pain we’ve lived through—it’s all valid, and it all matters. More significantly, the hard things that cracked us open have the potential to create space for deeper joy and resilience. As we try softer with ourselves by attending to and listening to our bodies and emotions, we become vast like the Grand Canyon, because our ability to hold the full experience of our humanity increases.”
Review: ~~Powerfully written with an Invitation to Thrive~~ - This book is written powerfully and includes an invitation to thrive. The author has included some of her sessions with clients that illustrate practical methods to connect with their hearts, heads and bodies. Most interesting to read these stories as part of the total process. She is a survivor of trauma and this aspect definitely aided her in 'healing others'... This book is written in two parts with the first one being 'Process of Becoming' and then Part 2 which is 'Practices to try the Softer Approach'. The reader will also be able to grasp the process more easily with illustrations throughout. I learned more about my brain than I had ever known and the manner in which different parts interact with each other. One example is the 'limbic system' which I found most interesting. A few key points for me included: 'what happened in you life matters, the concept of white-knuckling', setting boundaries, grounding, and top=down comfort'. The Benediction at the end was also powerful. The invitation to thrive also included 'be still' with the Hebrew word 'raphah' mentioned. The most important point for me to read was the portion 'Big T or little t'....The analogy of a deep knife wound to a paper cut' is powerful..For me, I have had 3 Big T events in my later life and am eternally grateful for the counseling afforded me by the Veterans Administration...I can attest to the fact that the Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) Treatment worked well for me. The author asked what the most difficult part was for the reader and setting boundaries was for me initially. Now, many years later, after I have set boundaries it is that others don't respect them. So, that portion remains a 'work in progress'. So, I continue to state them with the hope that someday they will understand the reason I have set them. This is a must read book for those that are looking for expert advice on personal growth. As she states 'personal growth is a journey, not an event'. One step at a time ...go at your own pace and feel comfortable in your journey. Just excellent advice coupled with her perspectives on how to achieve living 'softer'. The inclusion of the verses from the Bible were also so uplifting to me. My highest recommendation for this book...Will be recommending this to many others! Most highly recommended.

## Technical Specifications

| Specification | Value |
|---------------|-------|
| Best Sellers Rank | #8,395 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #21 in Healing #88 in Christian Self Help #334 in Christian Spiritual Growth (Books) |
| Customer Reviews | 4.8 out of 5 stars 2,346 Reviews |

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## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A Must Read - This Book Ushers in Hope + Healing
*by K***P on January 10, 2020*

I am so grateful to see more and more conversations (and BOOKS!) taking place in the faith community regarding mental health, trauma, therapy, etc. Try Softer fills a much-needed gap, and it does not disappoint! As someone who has dealt with the trauma of losing a child, who has spent over a decade as military spouse in a world at war, who has uncovered childhood trauma, and who has been on my own healing journey -- this book felt like a long-lost friend. It was like an open-door invitation into healing and hope with author Aundi Kolber standing there with her arms open wide ready to receive you gently. Ultimately, the author extends to us what our Heavenly Father offers. Kolber interweaves some of her own personal stories and struggles as well as those of her clients (she’s a therapist), but this book really differentiates itself by the wealth of clinical information and expertise Kolber shares. For someone who loves stories and loves information, this book has both! This book really helped usher in God’s compassion and gentleness into my life and helped me relinquish areas of captivity by finding freedom and rest in “trying softer.” There are treasures in this book that have taken me over a decade to learn as well as new ones I’ve never before uncovered. Kolber’s knowledge, wisdom, relatability, and the inclusion of practical tools were immensely helpful. I have already returned to it a handful of times since finishing and will continue to use it as a resource in my own life. If you’re a fan of Brene Brown (but want something more Christ-centerd), if you’re ready to do some “soul work” as I like to call it, if you’re tired from the exhaustion of striving, if you have a loud inner critic, I highly recommend you grab this and start reading. While I read through it quickly, you may want to move slowly through it if you’re new to some of the concepts Kolber writes about. She does an excellent job articulating and explaining the information but some areas by nature may weigh heavy on you. I think you’ll also find the reflective questions helpful in absorbing and finding transformation as you read like I did. Thank you Aundi Kolber for sharing this work with the world! I know the world is going to be a better place as people learn to “try softer” after reading your book. Here’s one of my favorite quotes: “Every sorrow we’ve grieved, every fear we’ve felt, every trauma and all the pain we’ve lived through—it’s all valid, and it all matters. More significantly, the hard things that cracked us open have the potential to create space for deeper joy and resilience. As we try softer with ourselves by attending to and listening to our bodies and emotions, we become vast like the Grand Canyon, because our ability to hold the full experience of our humanity increases.”

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ ~~Powerfully written with an Invitation to Thrive~~
*by S***. on January 7, 2020*

This book is written powerfully and includes an invitation to thrive. The author has included some of her sessions with clients that illustrate practical methods to connect with their hearts, heads and bodies. Most interesting to read these stories as part of the total process. She is a survivor of trauma and this aspect definitely aided her in 'healing others'... This book is written in two parts with the first one being 'Process of Becoming' and then Part 2 which is 'Practices to try the Softer Approach'. The reader will also be able to grasp the process more easily with illustrations throughout. I learned more about my brain than I had ever known and the manner in which different parts interact with each other. One example is the 'limbic system' which I found most interesting. A few key points for me included: 'what happened in you life matters, the concept of white-knuckling', setting boundaries, grounding, and top=down comfort'. The Benediction at the end was also powerful. The invitation to thrive also included 'be still' with the Hebrew word 'raphah' mentioned. The most important point for me to read was the portion 'Big T or little t'....The analogy of a deep knife wound to a paper cut' is powerful..For me, I have had 3 Big T events in my later life and am eternally grateful for the counseling afforded me by the Veterans Administration...I can attest to the fact that the Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) Treatment worked well for me. The author asked what the most difficult part was for the reader and setting boundaries was for me initially. Now, many years later, after I have set boundaries it is that others don't respect them. So, that portion remains a 'work in progress'. So, I continue to state them with the hope that someday they will understand the reason I have set them. This is a must read book for those that are looking for expert advice on personal growth. As she states 'personal growth is a journey, not an event'. One step at a time ...go at your own pace and feel comfortable in your journey. Just excellent advice coupled with her perspectives on how to achieve living 'softer'. The inclusion of the verses from the Bible were also so uplifting to me. My highest recommendation for this book...Will be recommending this to many others! Most highly recommended.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Like water for your soul.
*by S***R on December 9, 2020*

If I could recommend a how-to book for life, this would be it. This is a book about listening to our own body, setting boundaries, processing the hard things that happen to us, and developing self-compassion. Raised with implicit and explicit messages to 'try harder' my entire life, this work comes to me at a time when I was trying harder in every area of my life. Trying harder with my faith. Trying harder with my body to whip her into shape. Trying harder with my self-compassion, which literally does.not.even.make.sense. Full of practical exercises and timeless wisdom that brings in anything from therapeutic techniques to neuroscience to breath work, I found this book to be more helpful than a lifetime of Sunday of sermons and four degrees (including nursing school) in terms of how to actually LIVE an integrated, healthy, wholehearted life. If the techniques and exercises inside are the 'how' of what it means to try softer, then the radical ideas of self-hospitality (my understanding of one of the big ideas of the book) are the 'what and why' and combined they have created a seismic shift in my soul that I have needed for a very long time. At war with myself for many years, I have been on a journey to unlearn the habits that had me trying harder, but making no progress. (Think 'emotional treadmill' and you will get a picture of a girl putting in SO MUCH effort, but really getting nowhere.) This book is everything I wish I had after my divorce. It's everything I think I should have learned after a lifetime in church. It's science and faith, practicality and wonder all wrapped up in one. It's the work of heart of a woman who is fiercely soft, if those two words can belong together. I am undone in the best possible ways reading and re-reading it. I have purchased 7 copies of this book for Christmas gifts and can say in 37 years of life, I have never (ever) done that before, but that is how much I believe in the message of this book. For anyone who didn't know that try and softer were two words that could belong together, this book is your invitation to heal the most important relationship in your life: the one you have with yourself. Thank you, Aundi. I do not know you, but my life is changed because you wrote this book. Writing a review seems like such a small token of thanks, but I mean these words with all my heart.

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