Come As You Are

This book is very good. It is clear why Amazon rates it #1 in several of their (fine grained) categories. It is packed with truth to counteract the lies about sexuality rampant in our society. It is filled with approaches to improve one’s life. In the conclusion is this paragraph: “If you can remember even one of the ideas in this book—no two alike, brakes and accelerator, context, nonconcordant arousal, responsive desire, any of them—and use it to improve your relationship with your own sexuality, you’ll be helping me with that goal. And if you share any of these ideas with even one other person, you’ll be expanding the global space in which women can live with confidence and joy.” It also continually reminds us: “You are Normal.”

Really enjoyed the book. As a guy reading it I felt like it was insightful and I took some good lessons from it.

Refreshingly Science Based!! Soooo good!! Educational and fun to read. I found many of the anecdotes extraordinarily helpful and eye opening. Anyone discussing intimate relationships with women must read this book.

I love this book. It teaches you a lot of things as an individual or a partner and contradicts modern science in a way that makes complete sense. This book will educate you in ways of confidence, pleasure, and understanding the deep root behind a lot of pyschological things about your body and mind. The only thing i did not like within thebook itself is that the author will write about a specific topic and the tell you all throughout thebook that they will speak about it later. I wish they would just speak the whole thing then and there instead of redirecting you to different chapters. Other than that, excellent book.

Packed with valuable information and humor. This book will enlighten, enliven, and move you towards a much healthier and much more joyous experience of your own sexuality. Thank you, Emily, for writing this book!

Got it for an 18yo looking to learn the ins and outs of sex in it’s entirety beyond just how-to. This was something she reported “she needed” after reluctantly opening; and is now reading and learning important things that will empower her moving forward; give her control, and to know herself best before letting someone explore on their own. Powerful, wonderful. I’ll get it for any young adult transitioning to adulthood. It’s a mission of mine to empower young woman and make it normal to have important conversations that have historically been taboo.

My wife has dealt with some trauma from when she was young and had some different/odd views on sex. She was never an instigator and was always worried about her body or performance which after years I could always tell when she was not always there. I never could get her to just let go. I bough a book for me to read and after doing some research I bought this book for her to read. When I talked to her about it she was reluctant to read it so I sat down and read some things that I felt would help her and then brought up what I'd read in the book one night. It peaked her interest so I left the book lying on the coffee table. A few days later I noticed it missing. A few days after that, which was about 2 months ago our sex life which was already good went out of site. We're both 46. She has spent more money in 2 months than the last 20 yrs on toys, furniture, outfits, lingerie, converted a spare bedroom into a play room and initiates about half the time. Everything about our relationship has improved. I haven't read it but I dam sure recommend it.

This book helped me look on my experiences and relationship, as well as my own body, with new insight. There’s a lot of hostility and manipulation aimed at women designed to make us see ourselves as less than we are. Sometimes this is to sell us something, sometimes this is so someone can more easily victimize us. Instead, Emily Nagoski suggests that we realize how the messaging can keep us from being ourselves and enjoying ourselves with the men in our lives. She says that being kind to yourself and letting yourself feel what you feel can let you find sexual joy. Self-criticism and seeing ourselves as broken is a self-fulfilling prophesy. By treating yourself the way you’d treat a loved one who’s hurting, you can relax into pleasure. This is a terrific book and I plan to recommend it to every woman I know, along with the men who love them.

Si sientes que tu cuerpo o tú están mal en temas sexuales, este libro te ayudará a comprenderte mejor y a desarrollar un conocimiento más profundo de ti misma. También lo puedes compartir a tu pareja porque todes debemos aprender más sobre este tema.

I haven't finished it yet, but it's a very intriguing book. I like that the author explains things in a very simple way, but still manages to explain all the science. The worksheets come in handy to help you understand the text better.

Interessante e non convenzionale. Da leggere!

Me cambió la visión sobre la sexualidad. Emily Nagoski es como la amiga experta que todos necesitamos, explicando la ciencia del placer de forma clara y accesible, sea cual sea tu educación sexual y creencias culturales. Es un libro que te abraza y te dice: "eres perfecta tal como eres". Una lectura que empodera y educa, y que debería haber leído de adolescente.

This is a society where the word 'sex' is sushed and 90% of the sex survivors live every single day with some memories haunting in the back of their head all the time. Women have been told or heard a word spread that this what is right when it comes to female sexuality and tend to believe it their whole life. The problem arises when her body functions in a different way she never heard of. This conflict between what's believed and what's the actual fact leaves her feeling broken. The knowledge about what's the science behind the female sexuality let us "unlearn the lies" been believed and see the things as they're. In "Come as you are", Emily Nagoski has uncovered this truth with science and I suggest every woman out there should read this book. And I got to know about this book from Sex Education series, where Maeve suggests this book to Aimee as she has complicated feelings about sex after sexual assault. Thanks a zillion, Emily Nagoski for writing this book.